If you are a parent, I want you to grow up to be a person who is full of love for your children. It is not a self-centered heart, but a kind heart that loves and helps others.
Underlying this kind of human love is that parents convey enough affection to their children and that they are open to their parents.
Children who are kind-hearted and caring for others are raised with a lot of love from their parents. On the other hand, it can be said that a child who does not have a feeling of compassion for others grew up without sufficient affection from his parents.
For children who are highly absorptive of what they hear and see
"What kind of person is a person with a big heart?"
"A person with a kind heart is good."
Let's talk to him.
Conversely,
"What do you think people think about people who are thinking only about themselves?"
"People who can think of everyone are said to have a big heart."
Let's talk with him.
When parents speak with such standards of value, they naturally permeate their children.
If you grow up by talking about your heart naturally, you will grow up to be a child with a loving heart for the people around you and a rich personality , rather than a self-centered heart .
Even if you know how to speak affectionately to your child, you may forget it in your daily interactions.
No matter how much you want to raise your child to be kind, if parents can't treat their children kindly, the results will be quite different.
In such a case, think back on how your parents treated you.
Surprisingly, you may now be your child doing what your parents were doing to you.
If you, as a parent, always treat your child harshly, it may be that when you were a child, your parents were harshly treating you and were often scolded.
This tendency is also seen in sports leaders. It is a cycle in which the strict guidance received from an adult leader as a child is now turned into a student by myself as an adult.
This also applies to parenting.
If it is negative, the negative chain continues. The memory that my parents treated me unknowingly makes you do the same.
So, if you first objectively look at your behavior and do the same for your child, change that behavior.
Anyone in the parent's way of raising oneself does not want to do this as a parent. However, when I am casually raising my child, I sometimes realize that I am doing the same thing as my parents. At such times, consciously reflect on it and make it a habit to change your way of thinking and behavior.
If you can love, believe, and recognize your child, you have the best relationship of trust.
Believe that your child is good by nature, even if he does something wrong and scolds you on the spot.
And if your child has done well, praise him.
Above all, it is important that the child is informed that the parent truly believes in the child. That way, children will trust their parents as well.
Anyone can honestly listen to the opinions of people they trust . In other words, even if parents do not scold their children, discipline can be done smoothly.
When parents think that they must be scolded severely and treat them, the child unconsciously feels that they are not trusted by the parents .
Communicate affection from parents to children, tell them why they are not good, and trust them to do the rest. Then, even if you don't scold, you will be able to educate yourself to convey important things in a calm relationship.
If you find it difficult to raise a child, it's because you don't trust your child, you scold him unilaterally, and you're trying to hear what you say to your child.
Before correcting your child's behavior, first observe your parent's behavior and look back to see if you are doing something based on the negative memories you received from your parent.
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